Care after Miscarriage

If you are experiencing heavy bleeding, severe cramping, and/or feel very unwell, please go to your local emergency department, or call 000 immediately.

Sadly, one in four pregnancies in Australia ends in miscarriage — a reality many families endure yet seldom discuss openly. Marc recalls an elderly lady who once shared her own experience with him. Though she was a grandmother at the time, the depth of her loss was still evident. Her story serves as a poignant reminder of how deeply miscarriage can affect people, even decades later.

In NSW, when miscarriage occurs before 20 weeks gestation, a cremation or burial is not typically available. Yet this legal limitation need not prevent you from marking your loss meaningfully.

If you feel it would bring you comfort, you could consider arranging a miniature service with just you and your partner. A secluded space in nature that you are familiar with — such as a favourite tree in a reserve, a hidden spot with a view, or a rock by the sea — may offer solace. 

You may wish to bring flowers, music, or a reading during your time of remembrance. Some parents find comfort in Scripture. One passage often chosen is “…you knitted me together in my mother’s womb...” (Psalm 139:13-16, ESV).

We encourage you to grieve in a way that feels natural and healing for you. For further support and resources, we suggest visiting The Pink Elephants Support Network or Miscarriage Australia.

If you like, you may wish to read a personal story: The Tide of Remembrance.